Can a word define your personality?

Lately, one question keeps circling in my mind: Who am I, really?

For the longest time, I thought of myself as an extrovert. I was the kid who loved being around people, chatting, laughing, and making connections. But if I am honest, I have also found comfort in my own company. I enjoy moments of quiet reflection. Sometimes, when I felt drained, I would make excuses to skip social gatherings, not because I did not care, but because I needed that stillness. It took me years to realize that it is perfectly okay to prefer solitude. Does that make me an introvert? I wonder.

At the same time, I thrive on genuine human connections. In the hospital, I was often showing new junior doctors around, making them feel at home. When patients gravitated toward me, and I loved being present with them. My colleagues used to joke that I had golden retriever energy, always friendly, warm, and eager to connect. I love talking to strangers, sharing music, swapping food recommendations, or even debating politics. Does that make me an extrovert? I ask myself again.

There was a period when I found safety in being the quiet kid, but there was also joy in being the one who brought people together. Sometimes I felt I was missing out by retreating into my shell, and other times I felt drained from constantly being the one to keep conversations alive. Then I stumbled upon a book called Personality Isn’t Permanent, and it shifted my perspective. Personality, I learned, is not a rigid box. It is fluid and adaptable. Labeling myself as just an introvert or just an extrovert was holding me back from fully exploring who I could be.

This realization did not erase the parts of me that love solitude, nor the parts that crave connection. It simply reminded me that I do not have to pick one. We are human, beautifully complex, and always changing.

Starting this blog is one small step outside my comfort zone. It is a way of reaching out, hoping to connect with others who might be wrestling with similar questions. If you have ever felt confused about where you fit in, know this: you are not alone.

To all the introverts, extroverts, and everyone in between, embrace who you are but do not let labels limit you. Step into new spaces, try new things, and create your own balance. Life is about honoring your true self while leaving room to grow into more.

Goodnight, and may you always find peace, whether in quiet reflection or in the warmth of human connection.. 🌙✨✨